Rabu, 16 Mei 2012

Getting What We Expect

For some of us commuting with MRT or other public transportation can be called a daily routine. We go to work, go to meeting place, even go to school by some of these public transportation. During our way, we surely meet a lot of different people whose names we don’t even know. We might meet them every day as the result of our daily travels, but it doesn’t guarantee that we’ll get close or even get to know each of them. We do have our reasons. We are afraid that those might be bad guys, we try to be careful, we worry that we won’t get an expected result from friendly gesture we make. It’s understandable to think that way. However, as natural and understandable as it seems, it’s also a form of bad habit that we all have been developing. We’re easy to get suspicious and think negatively toward everything, both people and situation. It does drive us toward being careful and watchful in our daily lives, but it also drives us toward judging a person or a situation in a wrong way. Once we do that, we’ll act in complete different way toward the person or the situation.
To a person, we turn into an annoying, selfish, and arrogant kind of person. This then makes the other person replies with the same reaction, being another annoying, selfish, and arrogant kind of person, which kind of confirms our suspicion, unfortunately in wrong way. This other person might at the first place a nice and normal person, just like we are. But since we play an annoying, selfish, and arrogant kind of person, that person jumps in into the game we created at the first place, being another annoying, selfish, and arrogant kind of person. We could have played the nice person and the other person could have jumped into the same game as well. So here, we create the “dangerous and full of strangers place” environment as the result of our own suspicion. It doesn’t mean that we should act too friendly or let our guard down in those public transportation or other public places so that we can be easy prey for thieves, but we can act and think more open minded toward people around us. Everyone is basically good, it’s our action toward them that determines their reactions toward us. We live in a society that starts to live with individualism, it can be a good thing and also a bad thing. As ourselves, people don’t like us getting to close to them, but it’s not something wrong to at least smile toward strangers we usually meet in our daily travels. Who knows it might turn out to be a friendship and the next thing we know our travel to work or to school won’t be that boring and that dangerous since now we have someone we know as our accidental travel partner daily.   
The same thing  goes with situation. Our misjudgment can make us feel bitter toward a certain situation. We think, once a situation emerged, it’ll mess our day or drive us crazy or even create a chaos that we should be the one cleaning. As soon as we think that way, we’ll act in such a bad mood toward that situation, we try to finish or do that half heartedly, we think it as an unsolvable thing and so on and so on.  Because of this, of course, the outcome will be exactly as we expect it to be, a messy, annoying, and chaotic thing. So this whole chaotic situation we’ve been afraid of is also the result of our suspicion and unreasonable hatred toward certain situation. On the other hand, we can try to be a positive thinker toward every situation that’s coming toward us. If we keep our mind blank toward those situation and just try to finish it the way we try to finish other situations, we might find it easier and less messy, less annoying, even less chaotic than what we expect it to be. We might see the solution of certain unsolvable situation as the result of us thinking clearly and working on that whole heartedly. Everything lies in the mind, mind is a very powerful tool. Once we set and think of the good outcome of every situation, it might turn out to be one. And even if it doesn’t, it won’t bring us down as much as when we’re a negative thinker. We can always find another solution, if not the best, it’ll serve to be good enough for every aspect. Instead of being a negative thinker and seeing everything as not good enough, we’ll try to find the good in every situation which will lead us into being happier and less stressful toward challenges that we must face daily.  
As we encounter more people and more situations in our lives, we can try to be more friendly in our judgments toward those people and those situations. There can always be mistakes of course, but mistakes always happen once in a while, even if we act the other way around. So now, why not try to act differently and see which one serves us better.

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